My personal experience with sexual anxiety is not uncommon among young men recently. This is what happened:
1. I experienced a time when I could not achieve an erection with a girl who I was attracted to.
2. I felt guilt and shame because I had “failed” in bed. I felt emasculated.
3. It preoccupied my mind and I worried that it would happen again.
4. I thought about it so much that it slowly became a belief. I started to believe I couldn’t perform.
5. The next time I had sex, because I had rehearsed failure so often in my brain, I couldn’t perform.
6. The cycle continued and my performance anxiety got worse as time went on — as I gathered more and more reference experiences that confirmed I couldn’t perform.
This literally ruined relationships for me and caused me to become depressed. I honestly worried that I would never be able to have normal sex again. I was only 25 years old.
You Can Overcome Performance Anxiety
If you read the above and saw some of yourself, I want you to know that you can heal and overcome this. I did. I now have an amazing, fulfilling sex life. Since recovering, I have had numerous girlfriends, flings, even one-night stands — which in the past, because of my sexual anxiety, I was always terrified of.