5 Reasons Why I Succeeded In Recovering From Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction

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I’m free! I haven’t used porn since April, 2011. That’s two years now that I’ve been completely free from a crippling ED-causing porn addiction.

I think there are two main reasons I have been successful:

1. I eliminated habit triggers as much as possible.

2. From the start, I had a game plan for contingencies.

Here are 5 concrete tips for how I accomplished this:

1. I replaced the porn habit.

Many guys try to quit porn cold-turkey and find it near impossible.  What many success stories have in common is that they replaced the habit with something else. This means when I got a craving to use porn, I would immediately start my contingency habit – in my case, a seven minute custom workout routine – I call it The Fapstronaut workout (catchy, no?).  At it’s most basic, it was simply 20 push ups followed by 30 sit ups. As the cravings became more and more sporadic (and I became fitter!), it turned into a longer/more fun workout (I’ll share it in an upcoming post).

Because the porn habit is physical, it’s also important to choose a physical replacement habit.  Until I write my own list, here is a link with some ideas for possible healthy replacement habits. I strongly recommend you choose a physical habit – otherwise, your cravings aren’t likely to be satisfied.

2.  I wrote a daily journal. 

Many guys choose to write a blog or online journal. But for me, I felt it was important to limit my time online so I chose to write an old-fashioned paper journal.  Every day, I wrote a few lines:  How many consecutive days I had gone without; How I felt that day on a scale of 1 to 10; If I had any temptations; and any other thoughts I had. It ended up being a kind of sub-journal to my real journal – just a few lines everyday about the challenge.  I highly recommend journaling as a healing practice and as a positive life habit in general.

3.  I had an accountability buddy.

My support buddy Dave was the saving grace of my recovery process. By having someone to talk about the cravings, the feelings of doubt, and especially the celebration when you reach a goal, you are much more likely to succeed.

The community aspect is one of the reasons why Alcoholics Anonymous is so successful.  Just knowing that you aren’t going through it alone makes you infinitely stronger. It’s really important to have someone with you who is going through (or has gone through) the same thing as you – check out the online community www.yourbrainrebalanced.com.

4. I kept motivated.  

During the really tough times, when I questioned whether it was all worth it, I reminded myself of the many reasons why I was doing it: getting back my libido; wanting to have strong, natural erections; wanting an anxiety free sex-life; wanting to stop being a slave to my lizard brain…  Also, reading about  other guys’ success stories and the benefits they felt from quitting helped a ton.

But, after relapsing around the 60-day mark a few times, I decided I needed to take massive action against my addiction.

I did what I coined Negative Reinforcement Charity (it might have a real name, but I can’t remember where I got the technique from).  Basically, I promised myself and my support buddy Dave that if I even so much as glanced at porn in the next 6 months, I would have to pay $500 to a charity I despise (in my case, the Church of Scientology — sorry Tom Cruise). Dave’s was a radical pro-Creationist charity.  And it worked. For those 6 months, the pain of giving away $500 to Scientology kept me in the clear. Dave too.

The trick is to make the charity amount large enough that it will be very painful to lose, but small enough that it won’t set you into financial trouble.   Note: I did this after I had made it a few times past 60 days without PMO.   I don’t think I would recommend trying this your first try quitting PMO. Unless you want to loose $500 bucks.

5. I made it easier on myself.  

Knowing that just seeing an image in a sidebar could trigger my urge to use porn, I installed a porn blocker to my browser and phone.  I used K9, which I recommend. It’s free and quite good at blocking – too good in fact, sometimes. Make sure you white-list your favorite inspirational recovery websites — www.yourbrainonporn.com and of course www.rebootblueprint.com — as they likely will be blocked for containing the word “porn”.  I set mine up with my accountability buddy Dave, who chose a password (he never told me in almost 3 years!) and I did the same for him.  That way, if I wanted to visit a blocked site, I would have to get the password from Dave – or find another way.

I also use an ad blocker, which eliminates many of the “hot babes” often found in sidebar ads.   Dave even went so far as to get a program that blocked all images (I think it was for google chrome?)  – a little extreme, but it worked for him.

If you’re worried about when other friends use your computer and question you about the blockers, you can always say that you have them in place to stay productive – which is, by the way, a pleasant unintended consequence.

Hope these tips help!  They were definitely essential to my success.  And please share any tips you have in the comments!

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News:

Recently, I created an mp3 to help when you’re craving porn.

It’s called “The Craving Crusher mp3”.  

You can download it here for free:

==>>  Craving Crusher mp3   <<==

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    About Brian

    Brian overcame a long-standing addiction to Internet porn and fully recovered from serious porn-induced erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety. For more about Brian, see my story.

    Comments

    1. Congratulations on your sobriety Brian! This is an awesome list of suggestions that many people can learn from.

      I love that you guys used Negative Reinforcement Charity. A buddy and I are doing something similar for our business hustles right now. Straight up – it works.

      Best to you!

    2. Ive been pmo’ing since I was 15 and now im 22 with p.i.e.d and i usually masturbated at least twice a day in that time. Ive tried quitting porn once before after disastrous sexual encounters ( which is why im still a virgin) but I failed. Im currently in my second week of no fap and no pmo. And what I really want to know is, will my ed disappear eventually and will I become normal again after timeand patience? Its just really getting me down.

    3. Hi,

      I am suffering from a similar problem, I used to mastrubate since I was 12 so I am only able to maintain the erection while masturbate and not otherwise.
      So it got accostomed to the grip of the hand,
      will avoiding masturbation work for me?
      Please advice, your feedback will be of much value

    4. there is an easier way to reprogram your brain. First get to know and believe that
      in what christ did for us o the cross. When He died on the cross he died with all the problems we will ever encounter in life. u also need to understand that He is capable of taking off that mind and giving you another.with that in mind , you are confident that your effort to reboot must work. focus on christ and trust your reboot can even take two days. it worked for me .

    5. Im 23 now , i remember when i was 12,13,14 i was like a horny little rabbit ,seriously, not having sex but just flashing because i was a confident little brat , i had the mantra of fuck it why not . Then i started watching porn, for the first few years i loved it , why not . As i got older i started to lose a bit of confidence as i got a bit hairier , but at 19 at which stage i was watching porn 2,3 times a day and even going on marathons of 6 times a day for 6 years. I remember because i would come home from school then college and no one would arrive until about 5pm so i had a lot of free time. So at 19 i went to a brothel because i said to myself i need to get it done and then the confidence would come rushing back to me . I walked in and was excited sje had big tits and nice eyes. I whipped it out and it was semi.Going well. Then it was all downhill .There was a blowjob attempt but i kept feeling my thoughts wondering to porn videos instead of being in the moment. Then i realised something was up , i wasnt getting past semi . Why ? After 5 mins my blood cooled down and i was shot. Its like my dick gave up so i gave up. At first i thought i was gay ,how could i not a get a boner ? I brushed it off however and moved on . Just a blip.
      Im not the best looker but have always been good with females , i think because i grew up with my sister and mum and i pretty much know the basics – confidence, well groomed appearance and hygiene. So at college i really pushed to try to bed every girl i spoke to . I had this one girl just sitting on me and i went fully hard . I was happy . IM not gay ! So im at home and ready but the story is exactly the same . Could not get past a semi its like it starts up but just does not get going. I know physically im attracted but its a mental problem. Anyway im 23 now and have had 6 encounters where i v just not been able to get past foreplay . Depressed, still a virgin , excessively watching porn , doubts about my sexuality and with ED. It had really got me down. As time went on i had serious doubts about porn and addiction and if its even a problem. But i sat back and actually thought about numbers . Watching it most days for 11 years . Its then i started to contemplate over the effects of porn. But for some reason i did not want to type in addicted to porn on Google. I didnt think anything like that existed . One day though i just typed it in fed up and realised that my generation is FUCKED UP. I was not alone. YES. Anyway im going to read and read and try everything i have to break the cycle of addiction and depression. We gotta get through this and become men again .Peace

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