Porn and Porn Induced ED: One Woman’s Perspective

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I recently had a great conversation with a female friend of mine named Sarah, where I told her about this website and my problems with porn induced ED in the past. She was very open to talk about it, and after a long chat, suggested that she write an article about how she felt about the whole thing. She even went so far as to get a few of her girlfriends together to ask their opinions.

For her article, I asked Sarah to answer a few questions on the topic of porn and PIED, namely:

-Her reaction when we talked about PIED
-How she feels about porn
-What women think/feel when a guy can’t get it up
-The importance of communication about sex between partners
-Insights from a female perspective about healing

 

I’ll let Sarah take it away:

After meeting Brian a few weeks ago, I just couldn’t wait to get home and browse his site in order to get more information on PIED. I remember that as he was telling me about PIED, it struck a nerve and I knew that a number of my friends could and probably would benefit from the knowledge that was being shared with me at that moment.

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How to Masturbate Correctly for Men, Part 2: Relax and Take it Slow

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Recap from Part 1

In Part 1 of How To Masturbate Correctly, we looked at why the widespread availability of high-speed internet porn has been creating problems for young men. Namely, why the way most of us masturbate with porn leads to unrealistic expectations, negative self-talk and performance anxiety. In other words, why the way you’re likely doing it can be bad for your erections and performance during REAL sex.

Now, I know there’s plenty of guys out there who have no problems surrounding masturbation and sex. But if you’re reading this blog or searching for “how to masturbate correctly”, chances are you are experiencing some sort of problem.

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Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction: A Complete Guide

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A growing 21st century problem for many young men

Porn-induced ED is no longer a myth. People all over the world are starting to realize just how toxic a porn addiction can be and it’s hitting a certain group of men harder than others.

It’s no joke: porn induced sexual dysfunction is on the rise and those most at risk are young men. Millennials are being severely affected by their porn addictions and their recovery rates are significantly lower on average than those of middle-aged or older men. That’s not to say that the older generations are home-free of the same devastating problems caused by too much internet porn. Rather, it’s that older men with a history of healthy sex are often recovering much faster from their porn-induced sexual dysfunction.

To get a better picture of the problem at hand and for those of you who are only just learning about the problem of PIED, we’ll start at the beginning.

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Porn-Induced ED is Gone and I Feel Like a New Person: An Interview With Noah BE Church

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Why did you decide to quit porn? Was there something that triggered it?

I used porn from age 9. Unlike some other boys, nobody exposed me to it, nor was it an accident—I was a horny little kid and sought it out. My use really took off when I was 12 or 13 and got a computer with Internet access in my own room. I escalated quickly to some fairly heinous and socially unacceptable content by age 14. I talked to no one about this. For most of my teenage years, instead of taking risks and putting myself out there to form real connections with real women, I turned to the easy fix of porn and dreamed of the day when I would have real sex. When I was 18 that day came, the culmination of years of hope and expectation. And my dick simply did not work. I felt little to no physical arousal, despite finding my girlfriend at the time very attractive. No matter how many times we tried over the next few months, I was completely incapable of real sex, and I had no idea why.Continue Reading

How Do I Know When I’m Back To Normal? (Rebooting from Porn-Induced ED)

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When you start your reboot, the two biggest questions you likely have are: “how long will my reboot take?” and “how will I know when I’m fixed?” The fact is that there is no rock-solid answer to this – at least not yet. That’s because each person’s experience is unique. Each person’s reboot starts off with a different set of goals and timeframes. For many who are suffering porn-induced ED, the “back to normal” goal will be when they can successfully have an erection WITHOUT the aid of porn and enjoy sex with a partner. For others, it may go even deeper.Continue Reading

How To Quit Porn? Here Are 5 Videos To Get You Started

There’s plenty of great information out there to help you quit porn or overcome porn-induced ED, but it can get lost in the signal-to-noise ration of the web. So here’s a list of 5 videos with great info to help you.

**Important Note: I recommend watching these videos on this page, as the suggested videos in the sidebar on YouTube can trigger a relapse.

1.  #NoWanks: Quitting Porn and masturbation has changed my life

This blunt and humorous video by Gavin McInnis on the Rebel Media YouTube channel highlights the many reasons why too much porn and masturbation can be harmful. It’s a must watch and shares some interesting perspective. McInnis is a Generation X man himself who lays out the facts in a brilliant, no-nonsense way for just about anyone to understand.

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Reboot Success Story Contest

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**UPDATE:  This contest is now closed.  The winning entries can be found here:

Third Place

Second Place

First Place

Runners Up

If you have a success story you’d like to share, I’d still love to hear from you: brian (at) rebootblueprint (dot) com

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Do you have an inspiring reboot success story to tell and a talent for putting it into words?

To celebrate 2 years since starting the website Reboot Blueprint, I’m giving away $175 in Amazon Gift Cards to the best reboot success stories.

Entry Deadline:  September 15th, 2015
September 30th, 2015
  • First prize: $100 Amazon gift card
  • Second prize: $50 Amazon gift card
  • Third prize:  $25 Amazon gift card
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50 Reasons To Quit Porn For Good

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I once read an article on why porn is great for your relationship…  While that’s a nice fantasy, the reality is quite the opposite!

And if you’re reading this article, you have likely discovered that not only is porn possibly harming your relationship, it’s terrible for your self-esteem too.

I’ve got 50 good reasons for you to take a stand against your porn habit and to become a better, happier and more fulfilled man, in every way.

So without further ado, here are…

50 Reasons To Quit Porn:

1.  Prevent erectile dysfunction

ED is a serious debilitating condition in men. Frequent masturbation and hard porn habits have been found to induce a physiological state that affects the brain in such a way that it hinders intimate sexual performance that even Viagra can’t remedy. This becomes a psychological conditioning which takes its toll and can create performance anxiety problems down the line. The best solution is to quit porn and let your brain return to normality – we call this “rewiring”.

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2Restore your sexual energy

If you’re busy doing the do often in the day, you’re not going to have energy for much else, including sexual intimacy with a partner.

You may have already experienced a lack of drive, and possibly the effects it has on you and your partner. Reclaiming that energy can be exhilarating.

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The Effects of Internet Porn on Male Sexual Performance

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This is a guest post by Larry O’Connor, a Marriage and Family Therapist with offices in San Fransisco and Palo Alto.

Many men view internet porn sites, but for some there are risks: becoming habituated, seeking more explicit material, diminishing their ability to connect with partners, achieve arousal, and maintain an erection.

Whether or not an addiction, the habitual viewing of porn is a process of learning how to respond to a specific stimulus which, in turn, progressively increases repetition. This is because the brain, having plasticity, is designed to learn by responding to pleasurable or rewarding experiences, which results in creating new, and preferential neural pathways, so these experiences are quicker and easier to retrieve in the future.

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