I have a secret to share with you:
I am a hard case when it comes to habit change. It is a real struggle for me to make positives stick changes in my life.
There, I admitted it.
But because I am naturally such a hard case, it led me on a quest to find the best techniques for making changes in my life.
Here’s an analogy. In MMA (mixed martial arts), you might have a really strong fighter with so-so technique. Sure, he’s gonna win a certain amount of fights just because he’s damn strong.
Then you’ve got the fighter who has a small frame and isn’t naturally very strong. That’s me. But because he isn’t naturally big or strong, he learns the best techniques from the best teachers.
He knows the most effective Brazilian Jiu Jitsu submissions. He knows how to get into an ezekiel chokehold from any angle. He knows how to quickly take the fight to the ground where he has a chance at winning. Okay, so I’m getting a little carried away with my analogy…
The point is, I’m not naturally strong. My natural state is that of low willpower.
It is difficult for me to change habits. I become addicted to things very easily. If I didn’t do anything about it, I’d be shy and physically weak. All of that — that’s what I had to work with.
But because of that weakness and my intense desire to be strong, I’ve gone to the best teachers and studied the best advice.
And it has made me into a different person: confident, strong, productive, and full of willpower.
Some of my best teachers have been books.
Consider the amount of wisdom in one book. Imagine, for example, that it took 10,000 hours for someone to become a master in their field, and another 1,000 hours to write a book containing the sum of their important knowledge in that field.
And you can read and absorb that information in as little as 10 or 20 hours reading. That is AMAZING.
I think it’s crazy that there are so many people who don’t read after finishing school. It’s like saying “No thanks. I don’t really want to improve myself or my life.”
You are the average…
Jim Rohn famously said that you are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.
If your friends are low on ambition and give terrible advice, consider spending some time with people who really want you to change and can help you. If you can’t find awesome people to keep you motivated and improving in your life, maybe you should read more books.
5 Books That Will Supercharge Your Reboot and Make You a Better Man
Here are my top suggestions for books that will help you man up and kick ass on your reboot:
This book, along with The Willpower Instinct are two of the most important books I’ve read in the last 5 years. People are creatures of habit, and to make changes in our lives, it’s key that we understand the habit loop.
Bottom Line: Charles Duhigg shows how the habit loop works and how to apply the knowledge. The book is entertaining to read and contains many examples of people making big changes in their lives with little ‘habit hacks’. A must read. You can buy it here.
As I said in number 1, this was one of the most important books I’ve read in the last 5 years. And I read a lot. In contrast to The Power of Habit, Kelly McGonigal focuses her writing on the concept of ‘willpower’. What is it, how it works, and how we can strengthen it.
If you’re like me, you’ve found yourself in situations where your willpower falters. In the book, Kelly references scientific studies and gives exercises that show you how to build your willpower and become a stronger man.
Bottom Line: This book has the potential to not only help make your reboot easier, but make your life a whole lot more awesome. You can buy it here.
A lot of young guys I hear from who are wrestling with porn addiction also have problems with low self-esteem and don’t know how to act around women. While this book doesn’t really focus on the specifics of what exactly to say to women (for that I’d recommend RSD’s Flawless Natural — which is what I used to get better at meeting women), it does give you the mindset or inner game foundations.
Bottom Line: We’ve been raised in a time where men are weak, uncentered, and are taught to give our power away to women. This book will help you understand sexual polarity and attraction, and how to live your purpose and be your best self. You can buy it here.
If you’re like me, you have trouble making new habits ‘stick’. The most important habit I’ve developed in the last few years is hands-down, my morning routine. If you can start your day right, with meditation, exercise, reading and journaling, you’re setting yourself up for a productive, kick-ass day. After years of staying up till 3 or 4 am watching porn, I never thought I’d consider myself a morning person. But here I am, getting up at 6am and loving it. I get more done and feel better than I’ve ever felt, and a lot of it is because of my morning routine.
Bottom Line: I had my morning habit before reading The Miracle Morning, but this is by far the best book about creating a morning routine and it’s helped me really dial mine in. You can buy it here.
Want to increase your testosterone naturally? Learn about legal mind-enhancing drugs? Hack your sleep? How to reverse “permanent” injuries? How to give your girl a 15-minute orgasm? If so, this is your bible. Tim Ferriss has spent tons of money and time being his own guinea pig and testing the latest available science. Though I don’t agree with everything he says, just adopting his attitude of “experiment and find what works best for you” is a game changer.
Bottom Line: If your body is your temple, this book is your bible. You can buy it here.
My question to you is: What books have made your life better? What books have helped you in quitting porn? Or rebooting from porn-induced ED? Share it with us! Leave a comment below.
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